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February 19, 2012

Couples Dancing: The Lost Art

On Thursday of this week, my musical partner and I had our first “gig”. I’m using that term very lightly, but it was a lot of fun and a great experience. We had no idea what to expect at this “Country Jam.” It was at the American Legion in Winneconne, WI. We had prepared 4 country-ish songs and it seemed to be in the open mic type of format.

At about 7pm the house band began playing. The room had about 20 or so people in it and most were in their 70s and 80s. The band was playing old classic country songs. Most of which I was only vaguely familiar with.

But when the house band began playing, something almost extraordinary happened. There were about five couples who started dancing around the whole dance floor. They were dancing in a way that people just don’t do anymore. The men were twirling their women all over the dance floor in a two-step time. It was so beautiful. I couldn’t help but watch; mesmerized.

My mother had come to watch us play and she had a brought a few friends. We had a wonderful time. As these couples were dancing, though, we felt like we had traveled back to a time none of us knew about. My mother is in her mid-40s and her mother would have been in her early 60s. This tradition of learning to dance as a social activity is at least 2 generations removed from us.

Of course we have danced with our significant others over the years, but not like this. We would dance in our couples unmoving aside from rocking side to side. I learned that night that what we learned at high school dances was not really dancing. I learned that real couples dancing is now a lost art. This revelation made me a little sad.

It was enjoyable and amazing to watch these 70 and 80-somethings dance around that floor like they were in their 20s again. It made me realize that I need to hang on to my youth. By that, I don’t mean desperately grasp onto the unrealistic threads of my twenties as I move into my thirties and forties like many women are doing these days. I mean, don’t forget to enjoy life right now. Laugh and relax. If I do those things now, getting older won’t feel like a death sentence. It will feel like an adventure of growth and excitement around each corner.

We did end up performing our songs with the house band playing to back us up. It was so much fun and it felt very natural to be back on stage again. I hope everyone can find their passion like I have. It is amazingly fulfilling and can be so much fun.

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